Hi there. Welcome to First Step Right. My name is Pam. I hope you find this page to be a place of refuge and hope. I live my life one step at a time, walking the path that is set before me. Some days I am greatly surprised by where I end up and other days I look back in deep, deep gratitude because I see the how far I have been brought over time. I do not write to you from a position of arrival but of side by side friendship. I hope you find encouragement and hope in the posts here. But first, you might like to know a little about me.
This is my husband, Dan, and me on our 5th wedding anniversary. He is my partner, my best friend, the love of my life! I could not do this life on earth without my husband.
We live in a smallish community in Western Colorado. He is a mechanic and I am an accountant. We are very ordinary people with an extraordinary desire to serve our God and Savior. Dan and I serve in different capacities at our church – he is an accomplished musician and I play with the kids and try to teach them about Jesus through songs and games and craft activities. We even try to teach our twin boys (below) but they aren’t even old enough to go to preschool.
Dan has helped to change the way I view almost almost all of the men in my life and he has helped me to unpack the baggage I have hauled around for decades. He has gone mostly gluten free and dairy free to help me heal physically and he only complained when I tried to make a delightful smelling meatloaf that wasn’t really meatloaf. I have never met a man so captivating and gentle. He is truly God’s gift to me! Without him to stand beside me I would fall back into old and unfruitful ways. I could dish on and on for days because he IS that amazing.
Where will we go?
Life is a journey and I could not take a single step if it were not for grace. I certainly have not arrived and there is still so much I need to learn. There is a very dark era of my life that I used to hide from everyone. I was deeply afraid of who would walk away from me with their hands thrust deep into my heart if I were the slightest bit vulnerable or asked for help. Now I know that my mess is a message of hope for others. And I owe it to her (or him) to reach a hand down with zero judgment because not one of us needs or wants one more person looking down except with compassion. So first we will learn grace – what it is and what it is not, how to live in it and not take it for granted, and how to extend it.
Why First Step Right
Dan used to tell me that if my first step is right, then every step that follows will be right. It took me a while to truly understand and wrap my brain around that statement. And I am sure that anyone else who has heard him say it might have thought it a bit arrogant or self-encouraging (because I am trying not to seem dense all by myself here). There is no possible way for us to take every first step correctly. We aren’t perfect and we should not aspire to perfection. But, once we have errored our way through to the correct path we now know which steps NOT to take. And by grace, we can turn from the error in our ways and take a new first step. Sounds easy, right?
Victory begins with one step. And this applies to all of us regardless of our past, our beliefs, our family dynamic, our sex, or any other basis you can bring to the table. I will refer heavily to teachings in the Bible because I believe that the healing power and living concepts (morality) taught there are of a wider theology and ideology than how we define religion specifically. And personally, I am not into religion but I am in relationship with God. Living by His concepts has saved me, made me into a new creation, and gave me hope where I previously had none.
What is next?
This is where we will get real with each other. Here is where we will walk together and hold each other up as well as hold each other accountable. I hope that women (and perhaps men) from all walks of life, from all stages of life, and from all belief systems or theologies will find their way here to help and seek help from others.
- This is not a place of judgment, hate, religion, or negative self-talk or criticism of others.
- We aren’t here to debate anything but to come alongside each other and help encourage and teach one another about whatever life might bring our way.
I truly hope you will take the leap and read a post or even several. If anything I write about here resonates with you then please connect with me in the Facebook group where we can interact more fully. If you want to stay in the loop for all of my seriousness and silliness, then fill out the form on the sidebar. You will be among the first to hear when I post something new. Also, please message me directly on the FB page if you have questions or would like to have a private and confidential conversation. I get it! This is hard but I am proud of the journey you are wanting to embark on. This new friendship we build could be the beginning of the end of your mess. You are not alone. Let’s go for a walk wherever you have dreamed of going. Let’s be strong and courageous together.
PS… I also have a prayer group on Facebook if you would like to request prayer or join others in praying for each other. Click here to join.